Friendship & Love? Friendship is a special kind of love. When two people of opposite sex become friends, it is only natural for the relationship to progress into one of a romantic nature. If you’ve developed feelings for one of your best friends, you know how serious and hard it can be.
What if the feeling is not mutual? Will you still tell your friend that you’re in love with him/her? Will the friendship remain? Those are the questions that you should consider first; when you find out that you’re in love with your friend.
Expressing your romantic feelings to a friend might lead to uncomfortable or awkwardness and in most cases he/she would try to keep distance with you, to the point that the friendship might be over. So, how are we going to deal with this kind of situation?
Here are the 4 tips that will help you decide if you’ve fallen in love with your friend:
- Know the risk
Think of the possible things that might happen if you’re going to confess your feelings to your friend. If you value the friendship that you have it is not right to rush things, because we know for sure that your friend will be surprised for what you will say. Better if, you should think first before doing anything in order to keep the friendship.
- Wait for the right time
Consider the right time. Make sure that your friend is not going through some circumstances, stress, or trouble if you’re going to tell your feelings. It would be selfish, if you’re going to add another problem to a friend.
- How to confess your feelings
Don’t just blurt it out in the middle of a conversation. Just stay calm, don’t think about the “why’s and what if’s in your mind”. Be honest for what you feel, choose the right words carefully and take it from your heart.
By having this conversation, you’ve made a decision that it’s more important to reveal your feelings rather than to live a lie. This means, that you’re already ready for what would be the result of this revelation. Probably your friend is also hoping that you’ll be able to forget everything after that conversation. But of course, it’s not that easy. It will take time before things get back to normal. You might be able to be friends again down the road, but don’t rush it.
Keep in mind that other variations of friends may be fraught with danger. You wouldn’t know that in circle friends there’s someone out there who has a secret crush on you. But no matter what the result is, you should always keep in mind that things would be better when time comes. Things maybe a li’l bit different now, but being pushy or trying to convince your friend to be in a love relationship with you is probably not going to bring any happiness or satisfaction. If it hurts too much to hang out with your friend, take some time to get over your feelings.